The world of dog ownership is a strange one and it has evolved in some crazy ways over the years. But, there’s a magic to owning a dog that’s hard to describe. Anyone who has had the privilege of caring for one will tell you that it goes far beyond a simple owner-pet relationship. Dogs have been a part of human history for millennia, evolving alongside us in a way that’s as remarkable as it is heartwarming.
Dogs are descendants of wolves domesticated so 20,000 to 40,000 years ago. Early humans likely found wolves useful for protection and hunting, as they were drawn to the warmth of campfires and leftover food scraps. Over time, certain wolves evolved to be less fearful of humans and more willing to coexist. In return, humans began to breed these friendly wolves, and so began the long partnership between humans and dogs.
Originally, dogs were highly functional. They helped early humans hunt, guard their homes, and even herd livestock. In ancient Egypt, dogs were considered protectors, with the god Anubis often depicted as a dog or jackal. In medieval times, hounds were bred for specific tasks such as hunting boar, while small dogs were kept for warmth and companionship in royal courts.
Fast forward a few thousand years, and dogs are no longer just animals with a purpose - they have become beloved members of our families. This transition likely started during the Victorian era, when the middle class began to keep dogs for pleasure rather than solely for work. Dogs were no longer just workers, but companions, providing emotional support and affection.
Today, the role of dogs has further evolved. Some dogs are still bred for work - whether that’s herding on farms, assisting people with disabilities, or even serving in law enforcement. However, many are simply beloved pets, cherished as much as any human family member. And if we’re being honest, some dogs live lives of luxury that might even surpass their human counterparts!
In the modern world, dogs have access to a level of care that’s almost unimaginable compared to their ancestors. From gourmet meals and designer clothes to pampering spa treatments and orthopedic beds, many dogs are living their best lives. It’s not uncommon to see owners throwing birthday parties for their pets or spending hundreds on custom-built dog houses. The love people feel for their dogs often extends to treating them in ways that reflect their place in the family, with many dog owners freely admitting that their dog gets more attention and care than they do themselves!
Amidst all this evolution of canine companionship, one thing remains true: each dog brings something unique to our lives. My dog, for instance, is the sweetest, most loving companion I could have ever asked for. His gentle eyes, wagging fluffy tail, and unwavering loyalty… Well, most of the time - he was stuck to my mom while she was here because she was walking him and playing with him while I couldn’t. But most of the time, his loyalty has made every day with him a joy. Whether we’re curled up on the bed after a long day or out enjoying the sunshine, his presence brings peace and happiness that’s difficult to find elsewhere.
There’s something so pure and simple about the way dogs love. They don’t ask for much - just some affection, attention, and maybe the occasional treat. In return, they give their whole heart. It’s that unconditional love that makes caring for a dog feel like such a privilege. While I know that many people feel their dog is the “best”, I have no doubt that my Obi truly is. His gentle souls, loving demeanor, and endless sweetness make him not just a pet, but a best friend.
Owning a dog, much like humans have done for thousands of years, continues to be a rich and rewarding experience. But I’m not blind to the challenges and responsibilities that come with it. While owning a dog is one of life’s most rewarding experiences, it’s also a significant responsibility. While the images of wagging tails, loyal companionship, and unconditional love often come to mind, behind those moments of joy lies a lot of work. For anyone considering bringing a dog into their life, it’s essential to understand the challenges and how dog ownership can truly cahen you - for better and, sometimes, for worse.
I’ve always hated how people compare owning a dog to that of having a child, but I’ve got to be honest, I can’t think of a better analogy. They rely on their owners for everything - food, shelter, exercise, companionship, and medical care. Owning a dog means committing to walking them regularly, regardless of weather conditions, ensuring they have nutritious food, and taking them for checkups at the vet. There’s also the need to train them, which requires patience and consistency, especially with younger dogs and/or certain breeds.
Beyond the basics, dogs need emotional care. They are social animals that thrive on attention, affection, and stimulation. Have you ever seen those videos of stray dogs being found, starved and ragged? Notice how they are more often than not afraid of humans? That’s because they were not only starved of food and perhaps water, but also for the attention, affection, and stimulation they needed. At least half were also abused, rather than just starved. Leaving a dog alone for long periods can lead to anxiety, destructive behaviors, or sadness. You have to be prepared to integrate your dog into your daily life, often reshaping your entire schedule around their needs.
Bringing a dog into your home is a lifestyle choice. Your time becomes less your own. Spontaneous weekends away or late nights out have to be carefully planned around your dog’s needs. Suddenly, you’re the person who checks if a restaurant has a dog-friendly patio, or if a rental house allows pets.
So how does one know it’s worth it? The answer to this question is deeply personal. It’s worth it if the joy of having a loyal, loving companion outweighs the sacrifices you have to make. And sometimes, it takes a while to get to see those benefits. They don’t always come as soon as you bring the puppy, or dog, home. Cultivating a relationship of trust and love takes time. However, for many, the answer is an unequivocal yes. They find comfort, companionship, and an unbreakable bond with their dogs that changes their lives in positive ways. Others may realize they aren’t ready for the commitment, or that the lifestyle change isn’t something they can’t take on right now, and that’s ok.
When my hubby and I thought about getting a puppy (it wasn’t our first), we knew what we were getting into. And yet still, I’d somehow forgotten the emotional bandwidth it took to care for a puppy. I still have moments where I look at his beautiful face and think, “Oh yeah! You’re here for at least another 10-12 years” and that’s a long time. It can scare me. But I also have moments, more often, where I think, “I hope you stay with me for 15-20 more years” and I can’t bear the thought of losing him. It can be an emotional roller coaster, for sure.
Despite the responsibilities, challenges and the lifestyle ups and downs, taking care of Obi has transformed me in remarkable ways. It’s helped me practice patience, empathy, and accountability. The act of caring for him has shifted my perspective, enhanced my ability for compassion, and has even helped me live more in the moment.
He’s helped boost my physical and mental well-being, especially in these last months while stuck immobile at home. Even though we can’t go on our daily walk together yet, we’ve created a new routine and normal for ourselves and we’re happy. And during these stressful, anxiety-ridden, troublesome times, the simple act of petting and cuddling him helps tremendously each day. It actually releases oxytocin, lowering my stress levels and creating a sense of calm. He’s truly been my emotional support animal. On difficult days, his presence has provided me comfort and reduced my feelings of loneliness or anxiety.
In the end, I don’t think everyone can or should own a dog, but there’s a large part of me that wishes they could. If only to receive the benefits I’ve been getting from Obi everyday. The joy and fulfillment that comes from taking care of him, and having him love me, far outweighs the challenges. Yes, he demands time, and care, and sacrifice, but he also gives back in ways that enrich my life beyond measure.
If I didn’t have Obi to help me through these long days at home alone, I don’t know where I’d be. And I’m a pretty healthy and well-rounded individual. I just…I love him so much. He’s so good, and kind, and sweet, and seemingly filled with all that’s good in this world. It really is a privilege, and honor, and I am grateful, to be his caretaker.
Ⓒ October 2024. Beki Lantos. All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form by any means without prior written permission of the author.
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